Entry #4 – Conservative

ok i need to know what you guys are thinking…which brings me to conservative. 

I’ve hung out with two groups so far in my life…from child hood to age 21 i’ve always hung out with white ppl.  Never had an asian friend..i mean a real asain friend..not an asian friend who thinks she’s white…no no…a real asian friend til i was 22.  Now…Mike and I were discussing this on the way to Rockville..and on the way back the other nite.  We both agreed that asians are more conservative when it comes to public affection..and sex. 

Now..what i noticed, now knowing both sides, that white ppl are more opened with their sexualitly…i’m not being racist, or prejudice..but this is what I noticed. 

Ex: #1 – Public affection

In an asian environment..I wouldn’t be comfortable going to one of my asian guy friends and kissing on the cheek..or hug them..or even sit ever so closely to them..it’s just not possible…becuz they have this ‘space’.  it’s like no one can do anything without someone thinking something ill shit is goin on…come on now.  Ppl mess around…yes we all know that..but if you ask them about it, they’ll deny, or worst even swear on their mother’s grave they’re not. Is there really a reason to hide this?  not really…only IMAGE. 

Ok now with the white crowd.  I remember our parties…comin into a room and seeing someone you know..hey, first thing off the top of our heads..hug the shit outta each other…i’m speakin on a guy/girl interaction here.  Or with some…a kiss is in order.  and you can do this without other ppl stopping and gasp with ill thoughts running across their heads.  I remember this one time i met this guy named Sasha…he knew my friend Wendy and gave her a kiss on the lips..no biggie, then he turned to me and gave me one and said nice to meet you…

Ex: #2 – Being open and comfortable with each other

I haven’t played many games with Asian folks..but this is what i heard.  During drinking games with a group of 5 or more…things get ‘crazy’ .  For instance…this one game called..”Have you ever”..well i played that game once…and i didn’t know this..but later on..someone told me that half the ppl were lying.  Truth or Dare…this is the game where everything goes…this is what i heard…the furthest guys went was strip down to your boxers..even then, some are hesistant.  and girls, ‘get naked by changing out of your clothes under a blanket’. 

Games I remember playing the most with my friends was Truth or Dare.  Dare: Take all your clothes off. Done.  Dare: walk around the outside of the house naked.  Done.  So by this time we’re all sittin around naked..and staring at each other..but you know what? no one gives a shit.  so Dare: reinact doggy style.  Done.  Now that’s when things start to get interesting…everytime my friend JR play with us..it’s not reinacting…it’s the actual thing.  Like…Dare: pretend you’re eating her out. Done..but it’s not pretend.  and we’re all ok with it…if anything we find it very funny…

well maybe that’s a bit on the wild side..but nonetheless…i remember just being able to lay next to my friend mikey on the couch over his and dave’s place, and there wasn’t any weird feelings or any wrong ideas…